Jeanie Martin Ministries

For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous and painful, but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it [a harvest of fruit which consists in righteousness, in conformity to God’s will in purpose, thought, and action, resulting in right living and right standing with God] – Hebrews 12:11 Amp. Bible.

The Bible is a manual of instructions on how to live your best life in accordance with godly standards and God’s will for his people. One of the main reasons we attend Church is to honor God and fellowship with other believers. Every church should have a curriculum prepared for the congregants. This gives them an idea of what takes place at that church and reveals the different ministries available. We look forward to sharing our spiritual gifts and discovering how to best utilize them.

After accepting the invitation to become a Christian and a follower of Jesus, we’re instructed to find a Bible teaching church and make connections. Now that you’re saved, born again, baptized, and anointed, more than likely you have a desire to learn as much as possible about the Bible, God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit, Laws, and Covenants. Some people began reading the Bible via a 365 daily plan, while others attend service weekly, joining Bible Study groups, attending Sunday School, and Praise and Worship Service. The doors of the church are open for all to come and fellowship.

 The Spirit of Rejection

The first church I was led to attend was beautiful, warm, and welcoming. I chose to fellowship with this church after watching their television broadcast on Sunday mornings. I loved worshipping from my living room and I felt this was the right church for me. I was so excited to attend Sunday Morning Service at this glorious edifice. I got in my car and started heading down the road that led to one of the most popular Lakes in Chicago. I drove down the scenic Lake Shore drive; the landscaping is captivating.

Most of the time I arrive early for Sunday morning Bible Study. I was so excited to see all the people and greet them with love just like the Bible instructs believers to do. It was exciting to fellowship with my new church family. I greeted the attendees as we passed one another in the vestibule, I smiled and proceeded to the sanctuary to be seated.

Straight from the Heart

As a giver at heart, I purchased several household items to bless a couple of elderly members who attended early morning Sunday School. I bought boxes of tissue, paper towels, and bottled water and handed them out after church.

A few months later, on a particular Sunday, I didn’t have any supplies. A sister in Christ who faithfully enjoyed receiving the goods suddenly had an attitude change. I greeted her and her friend with a friendly smiled. She turned and looked at me and said, “Just because someone speaks to you don’t mean they like you!” She said it in a cold-hearted way. Surprised by her comment, I asked myself, “Did she just notify me that people there didn’t like me?”

Rejection is one of the most hurtful emotions. Not being accepted is a horrible feeling, it causes self-doubt and worthlessness. Encountering people who have insecurities can make others feel as though they don’t measure up to their standards or expectations. This behavior is unacceptable in the House of the Lord.

The Apostle Paul spoke of fiery darts warning us with these words, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked” (Ephesians 6:10-11, 16 KJV). *Take time and read the entire chapter.

Rejection is Redirection

When we encounter people who reject us, we must remind ourselves of who we are in Christ Jesus. Instead of speaking their language we must speak life to the situation and redirect ourselves to empathize with those who aren’t kind.

As followers of Christ the language we use when offense tries to overwhelm us, is to speak blessing over that person from the heart. We can never know what hurt them, but it’s wise to pray for God  to bring healing, restoration, and wholeness to them.

When we respond to rejection negatively it’s possible to open a door for sin to enter. We must freely forgive because we have been freely forgiven. We must apply grace as a remedy. Jesus sacrificed for us therefore we must freely forgive others. The Bible specifically tells us that “Without love we become as tinkling cymbals” – 1st Corinthians 13:1.

The Bible is instrumental in teaching how to come together on one accord. Joining like-minded believers together to honor the King of kings and LORD of lords. However, some churches have requirements. For some churches it’s all about the accolades. The Ivy League Universities of acceptance. Status, credentials, and income, and the right connections qualifies for acceptance to hobnob with the elites. This is not God’s way of sharing love.

PRAYER

Father, I know that the act of forgiveness is more for the victim than it is for the aggressor. The victim is suffering from the hurt, but the action of the other individual has departed. I am guilty of constantly rehearsing the matter, which cause anger. My mind can’t let it go of what happened and tongue has become loose. Out of my heart my mouth speaks.

I know that holding anger inside leads to resentment and hatred. I know the aggressor, doesn’t know that I’m beyond upset. He has no idea about the hurt I feel.

Jesus I need your love. Teach me to forgive and love like you. Create in me a clean heart and a right spirit.

Lord Jesus thank you for forgiving me of my sins. I turn away from my selfish desires. Thank you for giving me a future that greater than my past. Lord, help me to forgive others the way that you forgave me. Teach me to love others as you love me. Create in me a clean heart and a right spirit, Psalms 51:10.

Questions: “What about rejection causes the mind to search for answers for acceptance? Why do we need public approval when God approves of us?” These questions plague our thoughts when we face the Spirit of rejection.

Final Comments

I pray that forgiveness will resonate within your spirit and you will exercise forgiving others as Christ forgives you. Remember that the blessing of the Lord enriches, and He adds no sorrow with it – Proverbs 10:22. Forgiveness is more for you than it is for the offender.

Blessing of my love to you,